tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1212440049893130519.post7365217467557626835..comments2023-10-24T01:46:21.955-07:00Comments on Darraxus the Warrior: WoW Domestic Disputes (Part 3)Darraxushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09290390808933294129noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1212440049893130519.post-74165913758897278452008-11-20T16:43:00.000-08:002008-11-20T16:43:00.000-08:00Ok, I think there is a key word in what you had sa...Ok, I think there is a key word in what you had said, "... Its just so annoying how irrational they can be sometimes. I <B>gave up</B> another WoW night last week ..." some women truly just want to know that you think of them before anything else, whether if it is practical or not to actually do anything beyond thinking of them.<BR/><BR/>Do not try to make <B>sense</B> but try to <B>feel</B> the situation.Kinzlayerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16001395426828520653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1212440049893130519.post-56642848560561645362008-11-19T07:51:00.000-08:002008-11-19T07:51:00.000-08:00Well, we do communicate about it and I think that ...Well, we do communicate about it and I think that the main problem she has with it is that I am spending time with other people besides her. I have gotten her to start playing a bit, but we will see how that goes. Unfortunately, one of the problems she has is that she doesnt have any hobbies. None at all.Darraxushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09290390808933294129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1212440049893130519.post-52716154109866316092008-11-19T06:25:00.000-08:002008-11-19T06:25:00.000-08:00I guess I'm lucky. My wife was the one that convi...I guess I'm lucky. My wife was the one that convinced <EM>me</EM> to play WoW. I've always been a console gamer, and getting sucked into an MMO scared the crap outta me. Still, it's a blast, and more fun since we always play and level together. To be honest, if I wasn't playing with my wife, I probably would have gotten bored of WoW and quit months ago, it's just not the same without her.<BR/><BR/>As to your dilemma, you'll find plenty of people here and elsewhere that will agree with you, if that's what you're looking for, but it won't solve your issue. <BR/><BR/>Have you tried looking at it from your fiancee's perspective? Determine <EM>why</EM> she's upset about it, and not just what to do to keep her "happy" (which really means "not mad at you")?<BR/><BR/>Have the two of you actually talked about the game, about how it makes you feel or why you enjoy it? At the very least let her roll a toon and see if she can at least understand why you find it fun, even if it's not for her.<BR/><BR/>In the end it's still about communication and understanding. While you seem to be compromising with your lady, you don't seem to have much communication or understanding on either side of the debate (at least based on your WDD post series).<BR/><BR/><BR/>Also, I should add that while in my experience, many WoW players don't watch a lot of TV (as it would take from WoW time ^_^), most everyone else does. It could be that watching shows with your lady, while you see it as quality time, she sees it as just something normal that everyone does. It's how we connect with people socially, those little threads that are unimportant alone, but give us a reason to start a conversation and so on, shallow as it might sound.<BR/><BR/>Perhaps find another activity to do with her, maybe one that involves communication and working together on something, instead of TV. After all, TV isn't a "together" thing, it's just two people in the same place, doing the same thing coincidentally. You're not actively engaging each other while watching a show passively.<BR/><BR/>*drops $.02 in the jar. <BR/>/GoodLuckAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1212440049893130519.post-44622194447988123782008-11-18T06:02:00.000-08:002008-11-18T06:02:00.000-08:00The best way I have found to fix this issue is to ...The best way I have found to fix this issue is to get the girlfriend to find her own hobby. It seems like she is ok with you playing wow...she just wants you to choose her over the game. <BR/><BR/>Its really a complicated situation that millions of men go through. The best way I found to deal with this is to NOT setup days of the week that you play. If you decide to do this, play it cool. On your regular wow days, hang out with her. When she asks why aren't you playing...say something along the lines of <BR/><BR/>"you don't want my company?"<BR/><BR/> Which will work in your favor, just play it cool.<BR/><BR/>Just have it in your mind that you are going to play three days a week. This will help...I SPEAK TRUTH!<BR/><BR/>Also, it really really really helps if you girl finds a hobby she can do while you play. Such examples are cooking, watching tv, arts and crafts, knitting. Nagging her to play wow is something you want to stay away from in my opinion.<BR/><BR/>Overall, you need to have a real talk with her about your feelings and how it makes you feel that she doesn't like you doing one of your hobbies, something that makes you happy.<BR/><BR/>just my 2 cents though...good luck brotherAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1212440049893130519.post-36820604125949862432008-11-18T04:24:00.000-08:002008-11-18T04:24:00.000-08:00Woman are interesting creatures. They know exactly...Woman are interesting creatures. They know exactly what they want, they know exactly how to get it and they know exactly how to get what they want and still have a reason to be angry at you.<BR/><BR/>You'll be losing wow time like mad over this one. <BR/><BR/>Just play the stupid game :)Captain The Firsthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05598572840007267254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1212440049893130519.post-23702129414712132362008-11-17T21:24:00.000-08:002008-11-17T21:24:00.000-08:00Women, can't live with 'em, can't have heterosexua...Women, can't live with 'em, can't have heterosexual sex without them.<BR/><BR/>I think women are inherently hostile towards a man's hobbies/interests.<BR/><BR/>Going out drinking, hanging out with the band, reading a book involves lasers or spies or elves, playing with power tools, anything involves cars, board games that involves world conquest, anything to do with computers. These are all male pastimes that women in general see little to no value in and therefore there is something wrong with doing them.<BR/><BR/>I think managed to explain this to my wife. People like doing things they are good at. Thats why she likes shopping, music and socialising. Thats why I like using my nerd powers of mathematical and strategic analysis.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1212440049893130519.post-45811994882147474942008-11-17T10:16:00.000-08:002008-11-17T10:16:00.000-08:00Yeah. Its just so annoying how irrational they can...Yeah. Its just so annoying how irrational they can be sometimes. I gave up another WoW night last week because I had to work a night shift and she insisted on it since "I took away a snuggle night". I HAD TO WORK WTF!!!!!Darraxushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09290390808933294129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1212440049893130519.post-13623778666942353842008-11-17T10:11:00.000-08:002008-11-17T10:11:00.000-08:00I'm sorry to hear that. While I also will never f...I'm sorry to hear that. While I also will never figure out what's going thru their minds I think this comes down more to... a general annoyance that there was any deviation from a schedule that she already tolerates.<BR/><BR/>I was watching a chick flick once where two people were arguing. The chick says "you never do the dishes" the guy says "OK I'll do the dishes"<BR/><BR/>The chick says "I don't want to to do the dishes.. I want you to WANT to do the dishes"<BR/><BR/>Seems like that's what's going on here. She's not so much angry that you played WOW one day instead of another; she's angry that you WANTED to swap days at the first oportunity instead of sticking with your original word and WANTING to spend time with her instead.<BR/><BR/>What's the big deal... from my perspective nothing, but from her's apparently a lot.<BR/><BR/>Hope that makes senseTomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13742493941804574343noreply@blogger.com